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I’ve just got hold of a really cool piece of software (Neuroprogrammer 2) that enables me to make my own hypnosis recordings. I can add binaural beats and other clever things to subtly tweak the listener’s brainwaves and help them drift deeper and deeeeeper…
So my plan is to begin offering these as freebies to clients and website visitors. And the first one has just gone live on this site! Here’s the link – free 10-minute relaxation mp3.
This is my invitation to you as a client and a companion on the path of remembering. It is also a manifesto of my approach to this work.
The Invitation …
When we meet, you are the only person in the world. You get an hour and a half of my total attention.
There are no rules about how you should be or how you’re supposed to feel. There are no secrets because everything is accepted completely and without judgment.
You are in control of the pace of the work – we can go as slowly or as quickly as you like. There are no rules about how long it should take.
You are not your problem. No matter what you think you’ve done or what you think someone has done to you, you are not that.
You are not anything you tell me you are.
You are not anything I or anyone else will ever know.
If you recognize this in your heart, let’s meet. Transformation can happen in an instant. The enlightenment you seek is already here.
Hypnosis cures for eczema, psoriasis, and other skin conditions
It’s fairly well accepted in medicine that skin conditions often have a strong psychosomatic component – in other words, they are often largely caused or exacerbated by psychological processes. Eczema and other skin allergies, for example, are the result of an over-reaction of the immune system where the immune system wrongly identifies a harmless stimulus as a threat. This mistaken identification is essentially a psychological process or learned behaviour, which can be corrected by resetting unconscious thought-patterns. In fact, it has been said that almost anything you can treat with cortisone or antihistamine can be treated with hypnosis.
Hypnotherapy procedure for skin conditions
A therapist can use regression techniques or ideomotor responses to discover the cause of the problem. One way is to look at these seven factors:
- Conflict: Is the problem in some way related to a conflict you have or a difficulty reaching a decision on something?
- Motivation: What does it mean to you when this condition flares up? Is this condition in some way a chance for you to get some benefits that you would not otherwise get?
- Identification: Is there someone close to you, now or in the past, who suffered with a similar condition?
- Self-punishment: Do you feel that this condition is in some way payment for something you’ve done?
- Suggestion: Is this condition a learned behaviour, or did it begin with some particularly powerful or traumatic event?
- Organ language: Is the condition a physical representation of an underlying situation that can be expressed as a figure of speach, for example ‘she’s a real backstabber’.
- Past experiences: Is there an upsetting past experience connected to the condition?
People suffering from chronic skin conditions should take heart with the knowledge that their problems are typically very responsive to hypnotherapy. I recommend working directly with a therapist, at least for one or two sessions, to uncover and release any underlying psychological issues causing the condition. Then you can follow up with self-hypnosis recordings to reinforce the learnings.
Ease Eczema self-hyponsis recording
If you can’t get to a therapist, try the self-hypnosis recordings on their own – sometimes this will be all you’ll need.
Try the Search box on my MP3 Downloads page, or jump straight to this Ease Eczema self-hypnosis recording.
Research has shown that hypnosis for fertility can double the success of IVF treatment. But how does it do this? Well, essentially there are two main objectives for hypnosis in IVF:
- relaxation and preparation of the body for fertilization
- identification and removal of fears and unconscious objections to pregnancy
Let’s look at these more closely.
Preparing the body for fertilization
One reason for IVF failing is that the womb is in a contracted state during the crucial embryo transfer stage. Hypnosis can be applied with specific suggestions to relax the body and allow the fertilization process to proceed.
Relaxation will also help the body become chemically more receptive to fertilization. Remember that our thoughts directly affect the levels of hormones in our bodies, and high levels of stress don’t only diminish sex drive – they diminish reproductive capacity as well. The body needs to feel that everything is OK before it opens up to the possibility of pregnancy, so stress needs to be dealt with.
Another factor is simple performance anxiety. It’s like when you can’t sleep and the harder you try the more awake you become. Couples trying to fall pregnant can often end up putting so much pressure on themselves they end up closing down a process that should be effortless. When your lover becomes just a ‘sperm donor’, that’s a sign that you need a bit of a holiday! Hypnosis can help restore your inner sense of being OK with yourself no matter what happens, so you can safely take the pressure off and restore some of the softness and light-heartedness to the relationship. And remember, babies like softness and light-heartedness too!
Resolution of unconscious objections
Without knowing it, you may be holding some deep fears about the consequences of pregnancy. This is where you will benefit from working directly with a therapist who can help you uncover any of these unconscious patterns. But you can begin your own process of discovery simply by going within and asking yourself questions like these:
- Is there someone you know or who are close to, now or in the past, who had a bad time with pregnancy or with bringing up a child?
- What benefits are there to not having a child (or another child)?
- Will you lose something important to you if you have a child?
- What phase of life will fall away when you have a child?
- How do you really feel about your partner?
- If there is any part of you that objects to this pregnancy, who is it?
- What scary thing that might happen if you do fall pregnant?
Some of those questions are a little challenging and they might not apply to you, but if any of them grab your attention, just sit with them for a while and see what comes up. You might get a valuable insight.
Hypnosis for Fertility MP3
It’s a good idea to work with a therapist in person, especially if you think there might be some unconscious objections at work. But if you just want to restore a sense of hope and possibility, and you want to guide your body and mind into a receptive state for pregnancy, you might benefit from listening to a self-hypnosis recording. The power of belief can really work miracles. Have a look at this Hypnosis for Infertility session and see if it appeals to you.
I’ve just added a range of self-hypnosis recordings to this site for clients who want to work on their own. The power of self-hypnosis is sometimes underestimated, so here’s a bit of background about hypnosis and self-hypnosis:
We’re all hypnotists!
Hypnosis is not a special state that can only be induced by a professional hypnotist. Without knowing it, we naturally go in and out of trance many times in a normal day. When you sit at your desk and daydream for a few moments – that’s trance! When you’re driving somewhere and you realize you’ve been on autopilot and can’t recall anything about the route you’ve just travelled – that’s also trance. And most people slip very nicely into trance when they come home in the evening and sit down in front of the television.
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Have you ever wondered what the underlying Values behind your dreams and ambitions might be? The Values are the things that motivate us at the deepest level, often without us being consciously aware of them. When we know our Values we can define our Vision – a powerful statement describing our true purpose in life.
If you want to discover more about your true purpose, join me for a half-day workshop on Saturday 28 November. We’ll begin by doing The Passion Test, a simple but powerful system for discovering what’s most important in your life. As a bonus, I’ve added an extra process called The Vision Spiral to help you create a powerful life purpose statement. This will really get you focused!
For more information, check out the Workshops page.
Passion Test Workshop details:
Workshop: The Passion Test
Date: Saturday 28 November
Time: 10 a.m. – 2 p.m.
Cost: R390
Venue: Folio Books, Main Rd Rondebosch/Newlands.
In a conversation recently an ecologically-minded young woman told me of her doubt over having children. She wanted children, but it didn’t seem right to have them when the world was already so full of people. They would only add to the burden of the world and consume more of a dwindling supply of resources. It was quite a dilemma for her, and perhaps she is not alone in feeling this way.
How can we satisfy our own desires and the desires of the planet when they seem to be so much in conflict these days? Those who care about the environment feel real pain at what is happening. All evidence says the world needs fewer people, not more. And it needs the people who consume without regard for the future to stop doing what they are doing. We know what is good for the world, we are sure we know. It does not occur to us that this ‘knowing’, and the pain it causes us, are part of the problem.
Separation
In order for us to see the world as needing saving from the ignorant people, the greedy people, we need to view ourselves as separate from both those people and the earth itself. It does not occur to us that our willingness to sacrifice ourselves to save the planet is itself a form of violence. We see the world as out there, in distress, as something that needs fixing. It gives us a sense of identity to know that we know what the planet needs. But really, how do we know?
Could it perhaps be that we and the earth are not separate at all, that what we love the earth also loves? How terrible to think that the world might require us to deny the love that seeks to come through us. This thought is based on separation, and it places us on the same side as the speculators and developers who are plundering the earth in their own way. We are not different to them. If we see ourselves as different then we are simply affirming how similar we are – all of us lost in the same dream of separation.
Ending the war within
The world needs fewer people. Is that true? Perhaps it might be more true to say that the world needs fewer people who are at war in themselves. The planet can handle any number of people who understand that the greatest thing they can do for it is to allow love to come forth in the way that love chooses. If it wants to appear in the form of a child, let it do so. If it wants to come through as some great project, something that excites and inspires you, then it is the world itself that brings it forth. It is not your job to refuse it because you think you know what the world needs. You don’t.
All you will have to let you know you are right is a feeling of expansiveness and inspiration that flows up from the heart when you contemplate a particular action. If you feel this, then your project is a blessing to the world because it is no different to the world. If it feels like duty, like a closing down, then it is simply ego trying to tell the world it knows what’s best. And, quite simply, it doesn’t.
I was walking to the shops the other day and suddenly it struck me that there was no purpose to this walking beyond the walking itself. When I set out my intent was to go and get some groceries – this was my purpose. But while ambling along by the banks of the Liesbeeck river, for a brief moment the story of my getting to the shops ceased and there was just the walking. No other story, just walking. And there was no other purpose in the world. Just this, what’s happening now, in this moment.
I’ve been writing quite a bit on this site about life purpose as something to be found, but now it seems that in fact there is nothing to be found. Your true purpose is whatever you are being or doing right now. As you read this your purpose is to sit and read. Or more precisely, one might say the reading is simply happening, you are not doing anything. There’s absolutely nothing beyond this reading, because anything that would be beyond it is a projection out of the Now into a past or future. A projection into one more story, one more fiction.
So now I will define true purpose as who you are when the stories about yourself have ceased. It is the life that lives through you, as you. How do you get to this? Stop the struggle, stop trying to make things happen when they’re just not happening. I’m glad I can blog about this so I can come back and remind myself when I forget (which happens often!).
There’s a quote from the Conversations with God series that comes to mind:
“There is nothing you have to be or do except what you are being or doing right now.”
Text version of a public talk on The Passion Test
We are all here because we are looking for something. There is a feeling that something is missing. We are missing our destiny, the knowledge of how we might be most effective and fulfilled in the world. Some of us might have gone to a lot of trouble to try and divine what our path might be. We just cannot decide who we are and what we should do, or the obstacles to our dreams seem so overwhelming we convince ourselves we are mistaken about our heart’s desire.
Well I would suggest to you that the clues to your ideal life are already present with you now. You don’t need to look up to the heavens or consult oracles or petition your spirit guides. It’s all here, right now. In this process which I will lead you through you will discover that the clues to your destiny are hiding in plain sight. For a hundred and one reasons we overlook these clues, but they are there.
When our attention is on the created world we imagine there are things that can be lost and others that can be gained, there are things we avoid and others that we seek. There seems to be a timeline we can walk from past to future, from that which is less good to that which is more good. It’s possible for us to be missing something that can be gained in a desired future. This is what most received wisdom and common sense seems to tell us. But in the quantum state at the heart of all matter there is no time and no place, and therefore nothing that can be gained or lost.
The holographic universe
Quantum physics tells us that elementary particles are entangled, they know what other particles are doing even if separated by great distances. In the heart of matter where time and space are not real, things are more than connected, they are the same thing reflected over and over. Some have likened this to a hologram – the Holographic Universe.
But this is not really the subject of this talk, it’s just to open the door to the idea that in the deeper sense of who we are, everything is reflected, and nothing is missing. Which means, in short, that the answer to the question of what is missing in your life is actually present in your life right now. You only need to look carefully, to remove the things that obscure it, for the answer to appear.
The Passion Test process
The Passion Test is a simple but powerful system for discovering your passions and living your destiny – effortlessly. It begins by looking at what is in your life right now because the clues to your destiny are already here, already present. This article will not discuss the process itself – so follow this link for more information on The Passion Test.
Life living through you
The Passion Test is about uncovering layer by layer the things that are most important to you. You can look at this as a process of discovering and manifesting your destiny, but it’s not about you, the ego, going out and conquering the universe, it is about you listening to what is there already, about getting clear about the patterns that are already present. And here’s the thing – when you are truly living your passionate life it might become apparent to you that it is not you who is living your life, life is living through you, as you.
It is the potential of enlightenment, where you as ego disappears in favour of what is. That is what destiny is about – your path of no resistance, the path in which life lives through you, as you. It is you living in the world but not being of the world. And all we need to do is to get clear on who we are, on the things that are most important to us, because these are the things that come from the quantum field, from the state of unity within.
As a hypnotherapist I see loads of clients who have battled for years to stop smoking. Often they’ve managed to give up cigarettes for a month or two, but then they’re back into it at full force. They tell me they’ve often tried everything – they’ve read Allen Carr’s Easy Way, they’ve taken Zyban, they’ve submitted to acupuncture, but within a short while they’re back at their old habit again. Most of these same clients tell me, with some resignation, that they clearly don’t have enough willpower or discipline. If this describes your own situation it might come as a relief when I tell you that it’s not your fault – the situation has been rigged so that you’re almost bound to fail. Here’s why.
It’s a set-up
Hypnotherapists have something they call the Law of Reverse Effect. Quite simply, the law states that the more you think about not doing something, the more you end up doing it. It’s like if someone tells you not to think of purple-spotted giraffes, then guess what image pops into your mind. It’s the same with smoking – the more you tell yourself not to smoke, the more you press that Smoke! button in your mind.
There’s another principle of hypnosis and NLP that applies here, namely that every bad habit has a positive intention. That’s right – there’s something positive that your smoking is trying to give you. If we simply apply discipline and willpower to take away the smoking, there’s a part of you that’s going to fight back to make sure you don’t lose the apparent benefits you’re gaining.
So now that you know this, what can you do about it?
1 Quit telling yourself you have to stop smoking
Every time you tell yourself that you must quit you’re just triggering the desire to smoke. Rather take that determination you have and channel it into positive affirmations connected with the good things non-smokers take for granted. For example, say to yourself, “I am enjoying clean fresh air with every breath. My body has all the stimulants it needs to cope with daily life.” Make up your own affirmations, but remember the key point – don’t focus on what you want to give up, focus on what you want to gain.
2. Apply some self-hypnosis
Now you need to try and find the positive intention behind the smoking. So sit comfortably, close your eyes, and take a nice, deep breath. When you feel settled and relaxed, just direct your attention inward and ask the part of you responsible for the smoking to tell you what benefits it’s trying to give you. Most people will find it’s things like relaxing, taking a break, or socializing.
Once you’re aware of the benefits, search deep within your own wisdom and find some better ways of getting the same benefits. Commit to applying these actions instead of the smoking. In this way, you’ll be giving yourself something, not taking something away. Remember, your smoking is going to fight you if you just try to take it away without giving it something in return.
You might find it helpful to work with a hypnotherapist to really take this process deep. If you’re in the Cape Town area, give me a call and we’ll schedule an appointment. My stop-smoking course is usually done over two sessions, though some people prefer to extend it to a few more if their habit is really entrenched.
