My good friend Yogi Johann invited me to be part of a yoga retreat he organised, and I thought it would be the ideal place to try out some of the processes from my book The Discovery of Causeless Joy on a live audience.
And judging from the reactions of participants, it was a great success. Read more
Be warned …in this article I am going to give you the answer to every question you have ever asked. I am going to reveal the secret of happiness!
Are you ready?
All right. Let’s begin with what we know: We are all seeking happiness. But for most of us it’s always a happiness deferred. We reach a semblence of it for a while, and then something happens and it’s gone again. And so we set out on the search for that elusive thing that will bring us what we feel we need in order to be happy.
If this is what you are doing, then welcome to the Happiness Trap! Read more
As a coach and avid student of personal development I have spent a lot of time and money learning how to be happy. I studied the Law of Attraction and set about changing my bad feelings into good ones. I learnt how to use focusing and breathing practices to banish my stress and lift my moods.
I learnt countless other ways of smoothing out the ups and downs of life … but still somehow it seemed I was failing. Chaos still happened, and happiness was short-lived and required constant work.
Do you ever feel the same? No matter how hard you try- you just can’t get this happiness thing right. Some days are diamonds, and some days are dust.
Then I discovered the fatal error I was making. Read more
Imagine for a moment that you are a life coach for animals and creepy crawlies. One day, a lovely, hairy caterpillar comes to your office looking a bit stressed and forlorn. As a good coach, you ask what’s bothering Ms Caterpillar and begin to inquire into her life goals. She confesses she has been a high-achiever caterpillar – an A-type caterpillar – and has worked her way up the caterpillar ladder to be one of the foremost lady caterpillars of the forest.She had her sights set on even greater achievements, but lately she has been feeling really demotivated. The things that used to inspire and excite her no longer do. She’s fallen into a rut. Even her appetite seems to have disappeared! If she’s really truthful, she confesses, she’s begun to lose all interest in being a caterpillar and has this huge urge to just spin a coccoon and lie there for a while and do nothing.
So here’s the question: Do you continue trying to coach Ms Caterpillar on how to get her caterpillar mojo back? Or do you subtly suggest that this rut she’s fallen into might not be such a bad thing after all? Read more
What needs to change in your world for you to experience true joy?
Maybe all this changing is part of the problem.
Maybe it keeps you away from what is already here.
Try this: First, do nothing. Read more
When I first started out as a coach and therapist I put a lot of energy into sending newsletters and writing blog posts. But somewhere along the way I stopped doing that. I went absent from my own business.
So what was happening? Read more