Have you ever been fired up with an idea or vision and run with it for a while, only to have it crash or meet a whole load of obstacles? Or have you made some kind of powerful transformational change where you really knew that things would be different and that life would get better, only to be hit with more challenges and feel you’re worse off than before? Read more
Life coaching for self-actualizers and people who want more from life.
Did you wake up this morning feeling low? Or have you been through a slump recently?
I’ve realised that when I get into a slump it’s usually because I’ve been focusing on the circumstances of my life and judging myself harshly because things aren’t going the way I want them to. I fall into the trap of thinking that “things not working out” means there is something wrong with me or that I am failing in some way. After all, it’s how we’ve been taught to think – if something is broken, we must fix it, including ourselves! Read more
Is there some big change you want to make in your life?
Do you wish you had the courage to just go out and do it?
So what’s holding you back?
Let me tell you what I think it its. Read more
We all seem to be missing something.
Things don’t work out, we don’t get what we want, and we end up frustrated or in some kind of emotional pain. This pain seems to be confirming that we really don’t have what we’ve been looking for. Something is missing that we just can’t find.
That’s the conventional wisdom, and it goes like this: Pain and frustration indicate things that are missing from our lives. And the prescribed cure is to go out and get those missing things in order to be complete. The pain of having little money means we must go out and get more money. The pain of being single means we must go and get a partner. The pain of being overweight means we must get thin. Read more
Are life coaches allowed to admit they sometimes feel like crap? Well now I’m admitting it. Sometimes I get hit with something that really floors me and I begin to doubt all my abilities. No matter how good I get at coaching and self-empowerment, problems still show up. “What am I doing wrong?!” Read more
My good friend Yogi Johann invited me to be part of a yoga retreat he organised, and I thought it would be the ideal place to try out some of the processes from my book The Discovery of Causeless Joy on a live audience.
And judging from the reactions of participants, it was a great success. Read more
How many times have you got the message that if you just follow your heart you’ll step forth into a life of of success and bliss? If you spend much time on Facebook you’ll probably see messages to this effect being posted several times a week. It’s really easy to tell people to follow their hearts, but it’s rather more difficult to do in practice. Read more
Isn’t it interesting how a short break gives us a chance to start thinking differently about our lives. For many of us, 2014 was quite challenging, with lots of our issues are being brought up to the light to be seen and transformed. It seems we are being asked to go deeper into what it really means to be ourselves and to live authentically.
One great way to do this is to take some time to discover the deeper intention that is guiding your life. A lot of coaches and motivational speakers talk about “setting your intent” and “creating goals”, but I like to take a softer approach. For me, intention is not something you have to go out and get – it’s something that is already within you. Intent is calling to you from within. Read more
Be warned …
in this article I am going to give you the answer to every question you have ever asked. I am going to reveal the secret of happiness!
Are you ready?
All right. Let’s begin with what we know: We are all seeking happiness. But for most of us it’s always a happiness deferred. We reach a semblence of it for a while, and then something happens and it’s gone again. And so we set out on the search for that elusive thing that will bring us what we feel we need in order to be happy.
If this is what you are doing, then welcome to the Happiness Trap! Read more
As a coach and avid student of personal development I have spent a lot of time and money learning how to be happy. I studied the Law of Attraction and set about changing my bad feelings into good ones. I learnt how to use focusing and breathing practices to banish my stress and lift my moods.
I learnt countless other ways of smoothing out the ups and downs of life … but still somehow it seemed I was failing. Chaos still happened, and happiness was short-lived and required constant work.
Do you ever feel the same? No matter how hard you try- you just can’t get this happiness thing right. Some days are diamonds, and some days are dust.
Then I discovered the fatal error I was making. Read more