The wisdom of not-knowing
Today I am wrestling with a question and find myself asking, What must I do? What must I do?
I am seeking answers but finding none. This feels uncomfortable and unsatisfying.
But now, when I become still and observe this state of ‘no-answers’, a radical idea comes to me: Perhaps I do not need to know anything.
After all, am I really separate from Life? Is there really an ‘I’ over here who must find an answer over there?
All I really know is that this moment is full of questioning. If I must wait for an answer I am saying God must wait, for there is nothing other than God, nothing other than Life. God is asking what God must do. What a joke!
As it turns out, I am the one in whom this joke is enacted.
I offer myself to this masquerade. What must I do? What must I do?
I am becoming more and more aware that when we try too hard to fix ourselves and solve our problems we can actually just perpetuate these same problems. Conventional therapy and coaching is great until a point, but there comes a time when all our ‘doing’ just adds to the general noise and discord in our lives. The assumption is that if we keep on working at our issues we will one day resolve them and be happy. There is some merit in this – but only to a point. No matter how much we work at fixing and solving, we will never clear everything. We will still be a self – an ego – trying to fix a self. This duality contains the seed of suffering. 
We tend to think that language describes reality, but in many ways it actually creates our reality. For instance, if we are angry we are taught to ask a question like, “Why am I angry?” While this has some use in identifying a cause of our anger, it also gives the state of anger more affirmation and reality. In this case, our use of language is affirming a problem state.
How often do you catch yourself saying things like, “Why do I keep doing this?” or “Why do people always leave me”, or “Why aren’t I achieving success?” Pause for a moment and feel the energy of these questions. Do you get the feeling that these questions almost guarantee unhelpful answers?
One of the quickest ways to change your experience of reality is to change the way you describe it.
Have you found that dieting and other forms of disciplining yourself about food only make you feel worse? Do you feel alone in your frustration and disappointment? Then you might like to explore a more compassionate alternative. Your inner being is communicating to you through your food issue. Are you listening to it, really listening, or are you listening to other people who tell you that you must starve yourself and exercise willpower and discipline? Dear friend, it is not about discipline – you’ve got lots of that. It’s really about love. 
Are you trying to lose weight by dieting? Do you wonder why you don’t succeed? Let’s keep this short and sweet, let’s cut to the chase, the reason you cannot diet is because the diet is trying to kill your soul. In your heart you do not want to be told that you are not good enough as you are and that you have to be controled and measured and squeezed and trimmed. Stuff that! Deep down, you know there is nothing wrong with you. There are people who make a lot of money by encouraging this war between yourself and your body. Stuff them! 
Notice how you feel when you think about taking the necessary action. Is your breathing constricted, does your heart beat faster? Is your solar plexus all jumpy?